5 Types Of Girls You’ll Meet If You’re Going For An Arranged Marriage
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This concept is bizarre to the outside world but our culture has definitely normalised it for us. Parents start pushing their kids to look for that special someone as soon as they’re over puberty and if the kids aren’t doing their best at it, parents start to look around for ‘suitable’ matches for their kids.
Earlier matrimonials through newspapers would help find the right match but now we have dedicated websites for the same thing, where the search is super sterile and filtered.
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While explaining the concept of an arranged marriage to an Australian friend, who was so utterly confused about it, he did ask me some relevant questions like what if you ‘think’ you’ve met the right person but later you realise the person was wrong all along! I tried to justify that confusion by telling him that the right thing to do would be to date the person for a significant amount of time, get to know them better before tying the knot. But in reality most people tie the knot rather soon and get to know their partners later. It got me thinking though, do we really know the people we’re marrying in arranged marriages? Maybe not but you can predict the kind of people you will actually meet because there is a reason they’ve decided to marry someone through an arranged marriage setup!
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So, to maybe help you out further to choose the right partner, here are the five types of girls men usually meet for an arranged marriage.
(1) The ‘I Am Not Marriage Material’ Girl
She is independent and carefree and she’s only meeting you because she was either forced or tricked by her parents to meet an arranged match. She’s quite capable of finding herself a man but the whole concept of ‘settling down’ is something she doesn’t abide by. She will meet you but show no interest and if you really like her then maybe let her know you respect her idea of independence and that marriage doesn’t necessarily mean she needs to be tied down.
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(2) The ‘I Deserve The Best’ Girl
If the girl has agreed upon an arranged match she is expecting her lifestyle and the choices she’s made to match her life after marriage too. So, she’s looking for that luxury she was always given at home and she’s definitely her daddy’s favourite and expects you to treat her similarly. Which means, spoil and pamper her and take care of all her whims and wants. If she didn’t want it so easy, she’d be in love with someone, expecting the same out of him. But because she’s not working too hard to find love organically, she definitely wants a man who can give her what she thinks she deserves.
It’s not a bad thing or she’s not a bad person, of course. She just doesn’t want a change in her lifestyle even after marriage and if you’re okay with that, then maybe go for it. But if you’re not, you can definitely have a conversation with her and ask you to meet you halfway somewhere.
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(3) The ‘I Am Already A Bahu’ Girl
She really wants to get married, so it doesn’t matter how she finds love. It could be through a dating app, a matrimonial site or even an arranged match her parents set up. As long as her long-lasting dream to get married is fulfilled, she will meet a hundred men and find herself the right match. Since she’s always been keen on getting married, having a house with her husband and taking care of her in-laws, she’s already the bahu your parents have been waiting for.
She has gone over the bahu duties in her head over and over, and knows just how to make the right impression in front of her future in-laws. Your parents will definitely love her, but the question is can you? If you want someone as dedicated to you and your family, then maybe she’s the right choice but other than being the perfect ‘bahu’, the girl sometimes will lack a solid ambition in life.
(4) The ‘I Am Not Sacrificing My Dreams’ Girl
She has only agreed to meet you for an arranged match because she genuinely doesn’t have much time to find love otherwise. She’s a busy bee and is probably successful in her field because she’s ambitious and she will not stop for anything, not even you. So, if you want to marry her remember, her job and her aspirations might just be more or equally important to her and she will not sit at home and be a housewife. So, if you or your parents expect her to drop her job and sit at home, maybe move on from her? Or else, maybe having a financially independent and self sufficient wife is the best thing for you.
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(5) The ‘I Want Perfect Love’ Girl
This girl has probably been hurt in love one too many times for her to look for it again and hence, has decided to settle down with someone without making much of an effort. But she does expect you to shower her with love and attention because that’s what she seeks in the first place. She will definitely keep you happy and love you well because that’s what she craves and expects a lot of respect and love in return as well. Maybe stability and rationale needed to maintain a marriage is something that will take time to understand because she relies on love a lot, but eventually in time she will get there. So, if you can give her the love she’s seeking, she’s the one for you.
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Arranged marriages aren’t as bad as they’re made out to be. Yes, you’re meeting a complete stranger and spending the rest of your life with them but isn’t everyone a stranger anyway before you meet them? The trick is to know who suits your needs and wants the best and make an effort to get to know them better. That’s exactly how an arranged marriage setting works and if it’s time to seek a partner for life, maybe this is something that can help you!
